Are you influenced by your past?

What you are today was programmed into you as a child by your family. Families, in fact impact future behaviour and relationships, says clinical hypnotherapist and healer, Rama Awasthi

Are you able to get along with people? Do you fight bitterly with your spouse and parents? Are you given to rage and angry outbursts over the most inane things? Do you feel lonely and misunderstood? Are you unusually meek? Such behaviour reflects unresolved issues from your childhood. People prone to relationship issues are likely to have belonged to a dysfunctional family.

Types of families

Accept victory and defeat:
In certain families, children grow up in an atmosphere of extreme rivalry and competition. From early childhood, they are taught to focus only on winning. This puts unnecessary stress on the child. It’s okay to be graceful both in victory and defeat.

Be grateful:
People who take their relationships for granted come from families where they took relationships for granted and viewed human effort with disdain. The real impact of this is seen in their sunset years when they find themselves alone. Thanklessness leads to loneliness. So, people from such families should work on being grateful.

Have faith:
Some people are unable to express their true feelings. They appear to be always wearing a mask or maintaining false appearances. Children who are brought up in such homes are experts in hiding their emotions. They do not believe in receiving help as that would require them to take off their mask! If this was true for your family, work on strengthening your faith.

Think positive, be non-judgemental:
Then there are families that groom their children on high doses of negative emotion. One such toxin is being judgemental. This gives the child a very limited view of people and the world. They tend to judge all relationships. They are self-righteous and are always trying to change others. If this was your family's theme, then work on being non-judgmental.

Our relationships are the most important aspect of our lives. If they are not working, it is time to analyse your family-type. Collapsing relationships can impact your mental and physical health and even your work. No matter what your upbringing, you can choose to change and shed off negative patterns established in your childhood. They don’t serve any purpose and only impede your growth.

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